Warrior – Are you a warrior or a worrier?
One of ways I help my clients is through working with archetypes which I call Money Types. The 8 Money Types offer a simple way to identify and evaluate your relationship with money. With this understanding you can then learn how to make conscious money choices, which results in you being MUCH better with money on every level.
I do need to point out that the Money Types are not WHO you are, more WHERE you are. We have ALL the 8 types within us, it just depends when they want to show up and take an active role in your money life.
Tom, a client, identified with the Innocent money type. His story is found in a previous blog called Imagine Tony Robbins Out of a Job.
Quick precis. Tom identifying with the Innocent meant that when we first met he was practiced in putting his head in the sand when it came to money. He left the finances to his partner and when they split up his money situation got messy. He racked up debt, his credit score was poor, bank statements were filed at the back of drawers etc. He looked everywhere but within himself for help and gave the impression that all seemed fine on the outside whilst, in reality, Tom was feeling anxious and frightened without showing it.
So, this time I want to introduce you to the Warrior – the money type of action.
I coached Tom to encourage his Warrior to wake up and get moving, because when Tom first took the Money Type Quiz, (a quiz to show which money types are active or asleep) it showed he had a very strong Innocent and zero Warrior.
We had a lot of work to do, but only a few months later, his latest quiz showed a very weak Innocent and a much stronger Warrior which is great.
Let me give you the traits of the Warrior so you can see the ways of the Money Type we were wanting to activate:
The Warrior is out to conquer the money world! Generally seen as successful in the business and financial worlds, Warriors are focused, decisive and in control. Although Warriors will listen to advisers, they make their own decisions and rely on their own instincts and resources to guide them. More characteristics of the Warrior are:
- PFinancially successful
Tom looked very sheepish when he read the list of power words that seemed a million miles away from how he felt about himself. So how did we calm Tom’s Innocent and bring the Warrior to life?
Well, the best way to describe it is slowly and steadily. I used a tool we call Small but Significant Steps. Feel free to use it too. The first step is to identify an unwanted feeling or emotion around money. Tom chose fear. I asked him what he would like to replace the fear and he answered confidence. Great. We wrote it down, like this:
Fear ___________________ __________________ ______________ Confidence
Next, we investigated the root cause of Tom’s fear. He told me that money scared him because he was always rubbish at maths in school and that his parents had told him that he could never be trusted with money. The first time he heard that was when he lost a fiver on a trip to the ice cream stand while on holiday. He was 6. It became a bit of a joke in the family – “Don’t trust Tom with your cash!” It wasn’t played on that regularly but enough. The last time he remembered it happening was when he went overdrawn while at Uni and his parents had to bail him out. After that he didn’t really want to have anything to do with money. He then met his partner, who took over the role as the household finance manager.
The subconscious pattern of believing that he was not to be trusted with money and that he was incapable of managing money was set at an early age. Tom hadn’t given the message he received much thought until he started coaching with me. But he soon realised that it had hard wired his brain to believe what he was told. Events that followed only cemented that belief. But, now, as an adult and a manager handling staff and budgets at work, with coaching, he realised that the belief that he had held for so many years was not true. Afterall, he was happy to keep the budgets straight at work.
He described how he felt frustrated, as he earned well and wanted to be financially successful. He realised now that his false belief was holding him back. We filled in the missing words to complete the Small but Significant Steps exercise:
Fear Find core of this Discover what I need Be active, and enjoy Confident
Belief and to know to manage managing my money
Understand it my money Pay off debts
The fear of the Innocent was listened to and understood. Little did Tom know that his Warrior was champing at the bit to get going, but the strong, false belief of fear held by the Innocent was keeping him trapped in the corner.
Tom followed the Small but Significant Steps exercise to the letter. The description above was in reality, broken down into smaller more detailed steps, but you get the idea.
After reading Tom’s story, do three things today please. First, take the Money Type Quiz, the descriptions of all the money types are there too, and the offer of a call with me – book one in using my online calendar. Then jot down your beliefs around money and have a go with the Small but Significant Steps exercise yourself. Let me know how you get on. email@example.com